How to Support a Loved One in Counselling

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When someone we care about chooses to go to counselling, it’s often a courageous step toward healing and growth. But as a partner, friend, or family member, you may wonder how to best support them through their therapeutic journey without overstepping or misunderstanding their process. Here are some compassionate, evidence-informed ways to offer meaningful support to a loved one in counselling.

1. Respect Their Privacy and Autonomy

One of the most supportive things you can do is respect their decision to seek help—and the privacy that comes with it. Even if you’re curious, avoid pressuring them to share what’s being discussed in their sessions. Counselling is most effective when clients feel safe to explore their thoughts without fear of judgment or exposure (Knox et al., 2006).

Tip: Let them know you’re available if they want to talk, but you also respect their space if they prefer to keep things private.

2. Educate Yourself About the Process

Understanding what counselling is (and isn’t) can help you be more empathetic and informed. Counselling is not about giving advice or “fixing” someone—it’s about helping them discover their own insights and coping strategies with the guidance of a trained therapist.

Helpful Reading:
Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCPA) – https://www.ccpa-accp.ca
Mental Health Commission of Canada – https://www.mentalhealthcommission.ca

3. Practice Active Listening and Non-Judgment

If your loved one does choose to share, practice active listening. This means being fully present, listening without interrupting, and reflecting their feelings without offering unsolicited advice. Avoid minimizing their experience with phrases like “It’s not that bad” or “You’ll get over it.”

Try saying instead:
“I hear how hard that’s been for you.”
“I’m glad you’re taking care of yourself.”

4. Be Patient with Their Process

Healing isn’t linear, and change doesn’t happen overnight. Your loved one may have good days and tough days. Try to be a consistent source of encouragement and stability. Celebrate small wins and validate the effort they’re putting into their wellbeing.

Remember: Therapy is about progress, not perfection.

5. Set Healthy Boundaries if Needed

Supporting someone in counselling doesn’t mean sacrificing your own well-being. If you're feeling overwhelmed, it’s okay to take a step back and establish boundaries that support both of you. In some cases, seeking counselling for yourself can be a helpful way to learn coping tools and maintain a healthy dynamic.

6. Encourage (But Don’t Pressure) Ongoing Support

Some people feel ambivalent about continuing therapy, especially if it's emotionally challenging. If your loved one is questioning whether to keep going, gently encourage them to talk to their therapist about those feelings. Avoid pushing them one way or the other—this is their journey.

Final Thoughts

By offering empathy, patience, and understanding, you can play an important role in your loved one’s journey toward mental wellness. At Creating Your Balance Counselling Therapy, we believe that healing is most powerful when supported by a compassionate community.

If you or someone you love is seeking counselling in Dartmouth, Nova Scotia, we’re here to help. Learn more or book a consultation at www.cybct.ca.

References:

Knox, S., Hess, S. A., Petersen, D. A., & Hill, C. E. (2006). Clients’ experiences of therapist self-disclosure: An exploratory study. Journal of Counseling Psychology, 53(3), 274–287.
Mental Health Commission of Canada. (2024). Resources for Families and Supporters. https://www.mentalhealthcommission.ca
Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCPA). (2023). Understanding the Counselling Process. https://www.ccpa-accp.ca

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